Behaviorl Changes After Love

It is almost a universal fact that change is a way of nature and that relationships change over time. One cannot categorically say whether change happens for good or for bad but it is something that all of us need to come to terms with

Relationships undergo a change from the dating stages to post marriage. Your expectations from a relationship could be entirely different from what you get after marriage.

Change of any sort tends to be at least a little stressful, yet because it is inevitable, welcoming it as an opportunity to enhance the relationship is more yielding than evading change from happening. Planning for changes together can lead the relationship into new and exciting places.

Changes in other areas of your life, outside your relationship, will have an impact on what you want and need from the relationship.

Reasons for change coming about

Responsibilities

With marriage comes the additional responsibility of fending for your partner, something that you had not been doing before marriage. This caves into your income and your priorities and needs gets rearranged. In this regard you need to be sure that you and your partner take time to discuss negotiate responsibilities.

Proper communication

Once married, you spend more time with your partner and as a result end up talking to the person more than anybody. Hence the most important thing is that you need to do a great deal of careful, respectful listening to what each wants, and a lot of careful, clear communication about what each of you wants. Several factors can bring about a change in your relationship after love. Some of them are:

• Financial and money related matters
• Your partner's family
• Friends
• Job
• Changes outside the relationship

Some steps which could help you maintain a good relationship and adapt to the changes that come about are:

• Be aware of what you and your partner want for yourselves and what you want from the relationship.
• Let one another know what your needs are.
• Realize that your partner will not be able to meet all of your needs. Some of these needs will have to be met outside the relationship.
• Be willing to negotiate and compromise on the things you want from one another.
• Do not demand that a partner change to meet all your expectations. Work to accept the differences that you see between your ideal and the reality.
• Try to see things from the other's point of view. This doesn't mean that you must agree with one another, but rather that you can expect yourself and your partner to understand and respect your differences, your points of view and your separate needs.
• Where critical differences exist in your expectations, needs, opinions or views, try to negotiate.

Love Birds

Love has been denoted by many a gestures and objects since time immemorial. Something that has a direct or even a distant connotation with love was used to symbolize this feeling. Some of the representations which have been used for a long time are:

Symbolic representations of love:

• Heart: In ancient times, many people believed that the heart was the source of all emotions. So when you talk about giving your heart to someone, it meant that you are completely giving away everything to him/her.
• Cupid: the chubby mischievous winged boy was the son of the Roman Goddess of Love- Venus. According to myths, Cupid's love arrows would pierce the heart of his young men and women
• Roses: Roses are indisputably the most popular flowers among lovers around the world when it comes to conveying emotions of love. They were supposedly the favorite flowers of Venus who is the Roman goddess of love
• Ribbons, Lace and Frills: These have long been used to represent romance; Knights would present lace and other finery to their ladylove before riding to battle
• Love knots: love knots have a sequence of zigzag and intertwining loops with no beginning or end. They are supposed to symbolize everlasting love,
• Wooden Spoons: Wooden love spoons were given as gifts on lover's day with engraved images of hearts, keys, and keyholes.
• "X" sign: The "X" sign represents a kiss. This tradition has its origins in the practice during the medieval ages, wherein illiterate people would sign documents with an X sign and kiss on it
• Lovebirds/ Turtle Doves: It is an ancient belief that birds found their mates on this romantic day, so people felt that birds made great gifts on this day. Lovebirds are colorful little birds that sit closely together in pairs - as sweethearts do. And it is commonly believed that these birds cannot live without their mates. Doves are symbols of fidelity and love, because they mate and pair up for life. Love birds

Generally if you see a couple on the roadside or in some park holding hands of each other or kissing, the first comment we make is "they are love birds". But do you know what are the actual lovebirds are? A lovebird is a type of parrot. It got this name for its very sociable and affectionate nature. When a lovebird bonds with its mate, their bonding usually lasts their entire life. So, though you can have one it's always best to keep the lovebirds in pairs.

A lovebird will be normally short and stocky. It is one of the smallest parrots in the world. Generally many lovebirds are green in color. But they also come in many colors. They are basically unknown until the 1600s. Some Europeans who toured Africa saw them and wrote about them. The first lovebirds were imported into Europe in 19th century. By the 20th century lovebirds became more popular in both Europe and US.

Lovebird can be found in Africa and Madagascar. They are very popular pets. The lovebirds are generally tame and so probably adapt to their new environment easily. Pet owners have to ensure that they want lovebirds as their pets. But if you want only one bird, you have to pay it a lot of attention and interaction. Because of this only they are usually kept in pairs, so they can give each other a happy company. Like human beings lovebirds also don't get along sometimes. So be sure that your birds are compatible with each other. Otherwise they may fight with each other.

Any way, the fact is that a lovebird is one that can easily adapt to domestication much easier than any other creature from foreign countries. They can be great pets, if they are given proper care and attention. It's because of their social ability or chirping, they are the most desirable pets. Everyone loves having lovebirds at their homes and show off to their neighbors. You also want to own them. Right!

The chief traits of love birds are

• Lovebirds are full of energy
• They are always ready for thrill and fun
• If you alone at home, you won't feel bored because lovebirds won't let you feel boredom. They are also very talented like for example they can mimic your voice
• Not only are they talented, but also possess the intelligence to escape from their cages and you wont even come to know, so you got to tame them like large parrot

Why Men are Crazy for Women Love?

This might sound a vague question but has means a lot to people entering into a relationship. A definitive response to this is impossible and answers could go on forever. Every man has his own strengths and his own issues and insecurities. Moreover, men go through different stages of life and relationships have different stages. What men want in a woman varies widely. But here are a few things which men look for in a woman which makes them go crazy!

Men look for health (physical, psychological, emotional)

They look for a woman who appeals to them physically from some aspect. That is to say some men might like a woman for her hair while some could like a woman for her physique.

• Men look for the outward appearance of physical health, e.g. clear, bright eyes, a body not too overweight and not too underweight, clean lustrous hair, clean nails, clean body, few if any blemishes.
• All said and done, there is a certain degree of physical attraction which is involved which attracts men to women. Once the physical aspect is taken care of, the next step that of emotional and psychological health is ascertained

Honesty

Among the more latent trait men look for a woman who can be trusted completely. This also implies a certain degree of faith and chastity, someone who is not likely to sneak around and sleep around with other guys.

Similar interests

Generally it is found that men in love look for women who have similar likes and dislikes and their set of interest overlap with theirs.

Appreciation

Pride is something that is primal to a men in love and he looks for a woman who does not hurt it. In other words, men look for women who have a certain sense of appreciation for what they do and who they are. This also means that comparison between men is not something that goes down to well wit them.

Passion and Manageable ego

Men generally look for women who have a spark in them. This spark could be with regard to their passion for various things including love making! They generally try to find a woman whose ego is not at par with theirs.

• A partner for life and soul
• Emotionally strong woman
• Who gives him own space and doesn't pester him beyond reason.
• An interesting woman and with mediocre levels of intellect
• With a creative bent of mind

Sometimes men prefer women who are artistic in nature. This adds that extra spice in their relationship and also helps them when it comes to having a family.

What Women Look for in Men?

A topic such as this can have diverse opinions and suggestions because it is a case of individual choice and it varies from woman to woman. But in these choices there are certain inherent characteristics which a woman looks for in a man. Some of them are:

A man must have a purpose himself

This reflects his will and strength in decision making. It also goes to show his degree of commitment when it comes to entering into a relationship. Most women look for this trait in a man for they feel that this would reflect his attitude and approach towards the relationship.

Healthy and strong

There is a general perception that women like men who are healthy and strong. This could be with regard to their physique as well as their emotional framework. Reasons could be many ranging from a healthy sex life to bearing an offspring. A healthy body goes a long way in this regard.

Protective

Women have a tendency to see how protective their male partner is. Does he have the makings of being a good husband and a caring father? Bearing these aspects in mind she seeks a person who has a protective nature.

Confidence in one's self!

This is one aspect which also acts as a determinant in a woman choosing a man. A confident man shows the tenets of surviving in austere and trying conditions. This also reflects the mental make up of the man. What also draws a woman's attention is the body language of the man. A positive body language goes a long way in winning a female partner

Men who are their real self

A woman looks for a certain sense of novelty with regard to her man. No degree of farce will help a man to get his woman for the farce won't last for long. So it is better that he remains his own self and presents his natural demeanor to the lady

Sense of Caring

Men who show a genuine sense of caring also get the attention of women. Women like to feel as if they have your heart, and you will do anything for them. You don't have to spend a bunch of money, or give up your poker night, just melt a little when she comes in the room, and continue to be a man she can respect, so she feels special about being with you.

So it wouldn't be a bad idea for you to arrange a unique evening for your partner and cook a meal for her instead of buying her expensive gifts as the former will show your sense of caring!

Funny and witty

A few women also look for a sense of wit and a certain degree of humour in their man. So, if your kick off a witty conversation with your lady and top it with a few jokes then you have made your mark!

Understanding Each Other

Understanding between individuals is a basic requirement in any relationship. For people in love, it becomes even more important as it forms a major chunk in the relationship.

Understanding could be achieved by both the individuals by developing trust, appreciation and patience for the other partner. A few other ways could be:

Making you partner feel important

Most of the times, people are buried in tensions and responsibilities that they take their relationship for granted. In the process sometimes one person feels a sense of neglect. To avoid such situations, you could make your partner realize his/her importance everyday by addressing small things such as:

• Complimenting your partner. For example "Wow did you lose weight?"
• Letting him/ her take the initiative in certain chores of the house
• Asking their opinion in matters which might be of importance to both Conceding at times

You are probably right."

This statement can bury many a battles even before they begin. Most of the times, people in a relationship try to hold their side of the arguments to exercise their dominance in the relationship. This does not help too much as there remain a few feelings which keep smoldering for a long time. This allows you to appease her and still leave yourself an out if she is completely off base. So, by acceding on a few occasions you can actually win the respect of your partner apart from weathering a threat to your relationship!

"I was wrong."

Generally men hate to say this. Many times they could be right for what they argue but it is observed that women have a certain bent of mind which makes them think they are right So save yourself some grief and apologize now so you can get moving in your relationship! Keeping the spark alive in your relationship

Along with understanding it is important that the element of boredom is kept out a relationship. It could be dine by paying attention to little details which your partner likes generally. This enhances the degree of understanding between the two partners too!

If this is not done, then a sense of monotony sets in which could endanger the relationship. To avoid such a scenario, you could do little important things such as:

• Remembering your first date
• Taking your partner to his /her favorite hangout place occasionally
• Savor moments which are priceless to both the individuals in a relationship

Developing a sense of trust

This is one element which becomes more and more important in a relationship as time goes by. It also forms one of the cornerstones when it comes to understanding between two individuals. One must look to respect the decisions of the other partner and make the person feel that he /she is an integral part of the whole process. This develops and generates respect between the two individuals.

First Love - 'First Attraction'

First love is one of those special feelings which individuals like to cherish through their entire life! It is like a spring which comes after a muggy season of winter, which rejuvenates life and everything around them.

There are many aspects which help one decide on first love, some of them are:

Appearance

On most occasions individuals have a certain mental picture of their counterpart or would be counterpart. They expect their 'first love' to possess certain features which helps them narrow down their choices! So, we could say that appearance an indicator of the quality of a person's genes could be a factor in deciding your first love.

Perfect symmetry

Symmetry in the physical aspects of an individual attract many features. Some people have a beautiful nose, some have perfectly shaped pendulous lips etc.

• We may say that the preference in women for symmetry is not quite so pronounced as that in men. Numerous studies in humans have shown that men in particular go for women with symmetrical faces.
• Women are also looking for a man's ability to offer food and protection.

Learn to love yourself

Have you noticed how many married couples look quite similar? Studies have shown that we prefer somebody who looks just like we do. In other words, a kind of image of ourselves! This aspect could help individuals identify their first love from a bouquet of people around them.

Match their moves

When people are attracted to each other, they tend to copy each other's physical gestures. This is known as 'mirroring'. When someone does this, it is a sign of good communication and shows that your interest is reciprocated. Mirroring also happens when talking to close friends as well as potential lovers.

Don't play hard to get

Research suggest that playing hard to get doesn't usually work. It is normal for a person to strive hard to draw the attention of his/ her opposite. In the process, the individual might overdo something. We may infer this from people' experience although it would be fair to say that exceptions do exists to this. Those are the individuals who have had a taste of this aspect and know the 'rules of the game!

Sensual Signals

This is one the most sought after aspects which many individuals look for in their partner. What has been deduced is that women consistently prefer the smell of men whose immune systems were different from their own. This parallels what happens with rodents, who check-out how resistant their partners are to disease by sniffing their pheromones. So it seems we are also at the mercy of our lover's pheromones, just like rats.