How to Get a Girl’s Phone Number

How to Get a Girl’s Phone Number    

Let me start off by telling you something interesting:

I’ve personally stopped focusing on just getting phone numbers. I’ve found that EMAIL addresses are far better (I still get the phone number too, of course).Let me explain.

I perfected the art of getting phone numbers a couple of years ago.

If a woman is single, I can walk up to her and get her number in about a minute or two (if I’m in a hurry). I found out later, after working like a mad scientist on this that GETTING PHONE NUMBERS ALONE DOESN’T EQUAL SUCCESS.

You see, women have many different reasons for giving out their phone numbers. Some love the attention of having a lot of men call them. Some like to turn guys down. Some are actually interested. But the universal feedback that I get from men, and in my personal experience, women act different on the phone than they do in person.
When you call a woman for the first time, she’ll often start acting stand offish or even worse, just plain rude. It’s almost like she’s a different person than the one you met.
I’ve found that getting an EMAIL address is not only easier, but it gets more positive responses later on. It’s almost as if women appreciate it that you’ve taken the time to think about what you’re going to say when you write an email to them, and they think of you more like someone they know.
The other benefit of email is that it can be written and answered anytime.
If you call, you have to actually reach them. But an email can be answered anytime. And I’ve found that emails are answered FAR more often than voicemail messages.
HERE’S THE HOW TO:
After I’ve talked to a woman for about 3 or 4 minutes, I’ll often say something like “Well, it was nice meeting you. I’m going to get back to my friends.”
They usually don’t know what to do, as they’re used to guys clinging to them. Most of the time, they say “It was nice meeting you too…” Then, just as I’m turning to walk away, and we kind of disconnect, I turn back and say “HEY! Do you have email?”
The “HEY!” is a bit surprising, and “Do you have email” is non-threatening. In fact, I’m technically asking her if she HAS email, not if she’ll GIVE IT TO ME.
If she says “yes,” I take out a pen and paper and say “Great, write it down for me” and I have her write it down. (This is great, as I just treat the ‘yes’ that they give me as a yes to get it from them as well. And they’ve almost ALL gone along with it so far) Then AS SHE’S IN THE MIDDLE OF WRITING, I say “Write your number down there too.”
When you ask for email, it’s very low risk for a woman, so she’ll think “Fine, I’ll do that.” Most women will give out an email address without thinking about it, because they know that they can choose later to just not answer.
The magic of asking them to write their phone number down WHILE they’re in the middle of writing down their email is all about the psychology of human behavior.
She’s already mentally said “OK, I’ll give you my email address”… and she’s in the middle of writing it down. When you say “And just write your number down there too” it’s only NATURAL to just write it.
In other words, it’s a MUCH smaller step than giving out the phone number all by itself. It took me a LONG time to figure out this simple move, but it works like magic! You will have women writing their phone numbers down without even thinking twice.
Here’s a great add-on to make sure you’re getting a real phone number and not a pager or voicemail:
As she’s writing down her phone number I say “Is this a number that you actually answer?” If she looks at me and hesitates, or says that it’s her “voicemail or pager number,” then I say “Look, write your real number down. It’s going to be OK, I’ll only call you nine times a day…” They laugh and usually give me their real number.
Now, if she answers my first question and says “No, I don’t have email” then I bust on them and say “Well, do you have electricity?” This is a GREAT opportunity to use humor.
Then I say “Well, OK then. I like email better, but I’ll take your regular phone number. It’s so damn hard to reach people on the phone these days.”
Just realize that all you have to do is ask.
Like I said, I’ve tried all kinds of things. And I’ve gotten hundreds of phone numbers. And I use this exact sequence every time I talk to a woman and I want to get her phone number. I’ve gotten to the point where I can often do this in a minute or two - no kidding!
Now that you know the sequence, write it down with the words and the steps, and rehearse it in your mind over and over until you know exactly what to say for each step and each response.
Many guys have asked me “But what do I tell her as a reason why I want her number or email?” I’ve never had a woman ask me. If you ask, and they give it, then she knows why you asked. If she doesn’t give it to you, then she also knew why you asked.
Just assume that this is the case.
If you ask every time, and you do it in a smooth, assuming, calm way, you’ll get a lot of emails and phone numbers.
Note: Carry a pen on you at all times. I prefer the Fisher Space Pen (chrome) because it’s small, classy, and women love it!

How to Get a Girl’s Phone Number

Let me start off by telling you something interesting:

I’ve personally stopped focusing on just getting phone numbers. I’ve found that EMAIL addresses are far better (I still get the phone number too, of course).

Let me explain.

I perfected the art of getting phone numbers a couple of years ago.

If a woman is single, I can walk up to her and get her number in about a minute or two (if I’m in a hurry). I found out later, after working like a mad scientist on this that GETTING PHONE NUMBERS ALONE DOESN’T EQUAL SUCCESS.

You see, women have many different reasons for giving out their phone numbers. Some love the attention of having a lot of men call them. Some like to turn guys down. Some are actually interested. But the universal feedback that I get from men, and in my personal experience, women act different on the phone than they do in person.

When you call a woman for the first time, she’ll often start acting stand offish or even worse, just plain rude. It’s almost like she’s a different person than the one you met.

I’ve found that getting an EMAIL address is not only easier, but it gets more positive responses later on. It’s almost as if women appreciate it that you’ve taken the time to think about what you’re going to say when you write an email to them, and they think of you more like someone they know.

The other benefit of email is that it can be written and answered anytime.

If you call, you have to actually reach them. But an email can be answered anytime. And I’ve found that emails are answered FAR more often than voicemail messages.

HERE’S THE HOW TO:

After I’ve talked to a woman for about 3 or 4 minutes, I’ll often say something like “Well, it was nice meeting you. I’m going to get back to my friends.”

They usually don’t know what to do, as they’re used to guys clinging to them. Most of the time, they say “It was nice meeting you too…” Then, just as I’m turning to walk away, and we kind of disconnect, I turn back and say “HEY! Do you have email?”

The “HEY!” is a bit surprising, and “Do you have email” is non-threatening. In fact, I’m technically asking her if she HAS email, not if she’ll GIVE IT TO ME.

If she says “yes,” I take out a pen and paper and say “Great, write it down for me” and I have her write it down. (This is great, as I just treat the ‘yes’ that they give me as a yes to get it from them as well. And they’ve almost ALL gone along with it so far) Then AS SHE’S IN THE MIDDLE OF WRITING, I say “Write your number down there too.”

When you ask for email, it’s very low risk for a woman, so she’ll think “Fine, I’ll do that.” Most women will give out an email address without thinking about it, because they know that they can choose later to just not answer.

The magic of asking them to write their phone number down WHILE they’re in the middle of writing down their email is all about the psychology of human behavior.

She’s already mentally said “OK, I’ll give you my email address”… and she’s in the middle of writing it down. When you say “And just write your number down there too” it’s only NATURAL to just write it.

In other words, it’s a MUCH smaller step than giving out the phone number all by itself. It took me a LONG time to figure out this simple move, but it works like magic! You will have women writing their phone numbers down without even thinking twice.

Here’s a great add-on to make sure you’re getting a real phone number and not a pager or voicemail:

As she’s writing down her phone number I say “Is this a number that you actually answer?” If she looks at me and hesitates, or says that it’s her “voicemail or pager number,” then I say “Look, write your real number down. It’s going to be OK, I’ll only call you nine times a day…” They laugh and usually give me their real number.

Now, if she answers my first question and says “No, I don’t have email” then I bust on them and say “Well, do you have electricity?” This is a GREAT opportunity to use humor.

Then I say “Well, OK then. I like email better, but I’ll take your regular phone number. It’s so damn hard to reach people on the phone these days.”

Just realize that all you have to do is ask.

Like I said, I’ve tried all kinds of things. And I’ve gotten hundreds of phone numbers. And I use this exact sequence every time I talk to a woman and I want to get her phone number. I’ve gotten to the point where I can often do this in a minute or two - no kidding!

Now that you know the sequence, write it down with the words and the steps, and rehearse it in your mind over and over until you know exactly what to say for each step and each response.

Many guys have asked me “But what do I tell her as a reason why I want her number or email?” I’ve never had a woman ask me. If you ask, and they give it, then she knows why you asked. If she doesn’t give it to you, then she also knew why you asked.

Just assume that this is the case.

If you ask every time, and you do it in a smooth, assuming, calm way, you’ll get a lot of emails and phone numbers.

Note: Carry a pen on you at all times. I prefer the Fisher Space Pen (chrome) because it’s small, classy, and women love it!

How to get a Girl Outside on Date

I have a question for you…

When you get a woman’s number and you’re picking up the phone to call and “ask her out”, does it bother you?

Do you get freaked out?

Do you start thinking about exactly what you’re going to say, how you’re going to say it, how to deal with her rejecting you… etc.?

Do you ever get NERVOUS when you’re dialing the phone?

You know that feeling when you just start getting anxious for no logical reason, and you just CAN’T control it?

Have you ever had to actually HANG UP because you were so damn freaked out… and you just couldn’t follow through with it?

OK, now another set of interesting questions…

Have you ever called a woman, and started talking to her, only to realize that she was in a COMPLETELY different mood from the last time?

Have you ever had a woman “turn cold” on you all of a sudden?

It’s almost like you’re talking to a different person from the girl you met just a day or two before… and it makes no sense to you… right?

And finally…

Have you ever worked up the nerve to call, gotten her on the phone, had a great conversation, but when it came time to ask her out, you froze up because you didn’t know what to say?

Or even worse, have you ever gotten to the end of the conversation and asked her out, only to have her answer with:

“Well, maybe… call me Friday afternoon… OK?”

or…

“Actually, I’m going to be busy all this week, but thanks for asking… (silence)”

…?

Have you ever had one of those conversations where you could just TELL that something wasn’t right… and that she wasn’t going to be taking you up on your date offer, or calling you back at all anytime soon?

So why all the problems?

What is it about this particular few minutes of time that constantly ends in problems for guys?

I personally think that this issue comes down to a few key DEEPER ISSUES.

And I think that if you don’t have these other issues “handled”, you’re going to keep running into problems… and NEVER even know WHY…

…which sucks.

I mean, it’s bad enough to keep having a particular problem and not figure out how to solve it… but the idea that the solution is in doing something you would never think of is a little bit maddening.

In other words, I think that this is all about understanding the problem, and actually PREVENTING it from coming up… rather than trying to “solve it” in the moment.

Let me put it this way…

If you’re dialing the phone, and you’re starting to feel nervous, then it’s already too late to solve the problem.

No quick fix will help you.

Or if you’re on the phone with her and you have just asked her out on a date, and she says “Um, let me call you back in a few days and tell you”… and you start to get that sinking feeling because you know she’s blowing you off… IT’S TOO LATE.

There’s no “magic pill” at this point.

The answer is PREVENTION.

THE MAGIC FORMULA

So let’s take a few minutes and talk about the issues and what CAUSES them.

Here are some of the “root causes”, and how I see them…

1) Having no other options.

If you’re sitting at the phone with ONE phone number in your hand, and you haven’t been out on a date in a long time, and you are feeling DESPERATE, you’re probably going to get VERY nervous.

When you have no other options, the single one in front of you becomes VERY valuable.

Translation: You want it TOO badly.

This AUTOMATICALLY triggers your emotional system, because at some level you realize that if you screw this up, it’s all over. And you know that it’s all going to happen in just an few SECONDS.

The pressure is too much!

2) Putting too much importance on a single girl.

Now, if you have a girl that you’ve been dating for six months, and you’ve decided that she’s one in a million, it makes sense to put a lot of importance on your relationship with her.

But if you don’t know a girl very well, or you haven’t even dated her at all, then you are only setting yourself up for major disappointment by putting too much importance on ANY girl.

3) Thinking you need to IMPRESS her.

This is a HUGE issue.

Most men “unconsciously” behave and communicate like they’re trying to IMPRESS the woman of their desires.

When you think about this, it only makes sense… of course you’d want to impress the woman you like… so she’ll think you’re a cool guy and want to be with you.

But have you ever thought for a moment how an interesting, attractive woman sees it when a guy is TRYING to IMPRESS her?

Well, here’s the INSTANT and UNCONSCIOUS response that women have:

“He’s trying to hard. There’s something wrong. This guy must have something he’s trying to hide… and he must be pretty insecure.”

In other words, the INSTANT you do something or say something that is an obvious attempt at impressing a woman, her radar system screams:

“WUSSY!”

4) Having expectations and being attached to them.

You might think of this one as a variation of “wanting it too much”… only slightly different.

When you start getting your hopes and expectations up, you begin to get ATTACHED to them.

Then you run the risk of HOLDING ON TOO TIGHT to your little fantasy.

Bad idea.

Women don’t date guys who assume too much, act too comfortable, or fall for them too quickly.

Remember, beautiful women have guys falling for them left and right.

In fact, they almost EXPECT guys to go out on one or two dates with them, then say “You know, I really like you…” and other equally predictable sentiments.

Just like being desperate can destroy your chances with a woman, liking a woman too much, too fast, and creating expectations leads to crazy, stupid mistakes as well.

Now, think over what I just said…

I’m basically saying that if you want to cure the problem of freaking out when you call women to ask them out, and the problem of screwing it up when you have that first conversation and ask them out the first time, then you have to go INSIDE first… and do some preventative maintenance on yourself.

And the GOOD NEWS is that this stuff is not only good for you, it also helps you get even MORE dates with interesting women.

So here’s what to do about this particular problem:

1) Get more options.

If you go out one evening with a couple of friends, and you meet a REALLY hot girl… and you wind up having a fun conversation, and getting her number, what should you do?

RIGHT! Go get at least ONE MORE girl’s number. More, if you can.

This way, when you’re picking up the phone to call (or sending out emails, or whatever), you’ve got another woman to call right after her…

In other words, if it doesn’t go well, no big deal. No sweat at all.

Instead of putting all your “hopes” in this one situation, go get more options… this will prevent many problems, as well as giving you more women to date!

And think about it… when are you MOST likely to get a woman’s phone number? When are you the most likely to be in a great mood that actually ATTRACTS women?

Exactly… in the moments after you’ve already gotten another woman’s number.

So take advantage of this time!

2) Dial the phone expecting it to NOT work out with this girl.

I have news for you: Most women have something about their personality, behavior, future plans, etc. that is going to disqualify them from being good “potential mates” for you.

Now, I’m not saying that “all women are screwed up”, etc.

What I AM saying is that you need to realize that the only reason you’re freaking out so much is because your EMOTIONS are running the show.

You need to think about how rare it is that you actually meet a girl that is COMPATIBLE with you… that you’d enjoy spending time with even if she wasn’t good-looking.

If you have this in mind as you’re dialing the phone, you won’t have that “I’m desperate” vibe going on.

You won’t be talking like a guy who has a gun to his head, either… which is a good thing… because women get weirded-out by this kind of thing.

3) Instead of asking a woman out, tell her what you’re doing, and then tell her she can come along if she wants.

Why is “asking a woman out” early on a bad idea? Because if you don’t have a world-class understanding of male/female dynamics, you’re going to come across as a guy who is trying to use food as date-bait.

In other words, if the first thing out of your mouth is “I’d like to take you out to dinner” it’s going to be interpreted as “I don’t think you’re probably going to accept an invitation to spend time with me unless I throw in something extra…”.

Weak.

And that’s how SHE sees it.

The alternative?

Tell her that you’re going to be doing something, and that she should join you.

“Hey, I’m going to go down to Starbucks and get a cup of tea. You should join me. I’m way more fun than whatever else you were going to do… and that’s a fact!”

Extra bonus points:

Hint that she’s missing out if she doesn’t accept immediately.

If she hems and haws, or hesitates… just interrupt and say “Hey, you’re the one who’s missing out”.

I also like “You know, never mind. I guess you don’t like to have fun…”.

Great stuff!

This is solid Cocky & Funny material, and it’s the right time to use it.

You know, I personally used to get VERY freaked out when calling women for the first time on the phone… and “asking them out”.

Now that I understand this particular “moment in time” better, and now that I understand more of the “dynamics” of what’s going on, I get MUCH better results personally…

In fact, I never get “nervous” anymore when calling women, and I rarely if EVER have a woman “flake out” on me.

Now, in this newsletter I’ve shared a few points to help you get better results in this particular area. Use them. They’ll definitely help you.

You should read this newsletter right before you call every one of the next 10 women you meet… in fact.

But as you can probably tell, this is just one of MANY important facets of success with women.

In fact, this is just scratching the surface of the skills you’ll need if you want to have CONSISTENT success with the most DESIRABLE women.

The reality of this situation is that if you want to take control of this area of your life, and not walk helpless with women anymore, you’re going to need to take more steps to get yourself educated on this topic.

And what’s the best way to do that quickly, easily, and without spending years of time and lots of money learning the HARD WAY?

My eBook, Double Your Dating.

It will take you step-by-step through all the key theories, concepts, and techniques you’ll need to start meeting and dating more women starting IMMEDIATELY.

And here’s another interesting benefit that comes from going through my eBook…

It actually CHANGES HOW YOU SEE THE WORLD.

The first time you read it, you’ll be hitting your head saying “Ah ha! Ah ha!” the whole time.

All of those things that have happened to you with women will start to make sense.

All of the times you screwed up will stop bothering you, because you’ll “get” what happened… and all of the times that things worked will also make sense.

Of course, you’ll also be shaking your head as you learn some of the most amazing techniques for approaching women, getting numbers, getting dates, and taking things to a more “physical level” that have ever been created (For example, I share some of my own personal favorite “pick up lines” that work better than anything I’ve ever heard of for approaching women… and I don’t share these anywhere else except my audio and video programs and intensive live seminars).

But one of the REAL benefits comes AFTER you go through it. This is when the real MAGIC starts to happen.

When you’re out at restaurants watching the couple at the next table, you’ll UNDERSTAND what is happening.

When a woman starts doing something subtle that you would have never noticed before, you’ll SEE it… and she’ll SEE that you see it… and you will instantly be talking to her on a DIFFERENT LEVEL… all because you know something that most other guys don’t.

When you encounter “resistance” or “problems” or “tests” from women, you will no longer need to get nervous or upset, because you’ll know what TO DO about it… and when you actually DO the right thing you’ll see that problem disappear.

The point that I’m trying to make is that this education will not only teach you techniques for meeting women, it will also give you a new POWER that you never had before.

I can honestly say to you that if this program were available five or so years ago when I started learning this stuff, I would have gladly traded ANYTHING I owned for it… or paid any amount of money.

But it wasn’t, so I had to take YEARS figuring all of this stuff out for myself.

This eBook is priceless, and it’s worth at least ten times what I sell it for. As you probably know, you can order it WITHOUT RISK as well.

Order and try it out. If you’re not happy, just say “no thanks” and I’ll refund your money. No questions, no hassles.

I’m that confident that it will take your success with women to a whole new level.

What A girl Dont Like about a Single Guy

If you listen to a group of attractive, single women talking alone over dinner or drinks, the topic will always turn to MEN.

And in most cases, it will eventually turn into a RANT session about how hard it is to find good men to date…

Which will lead to a FULL-ON RAG SESSION about men in general…

…And wind up with a detailed list of all the traits guys have that are ANNOYING AS HELL.

The reality is that single women have an entire laundry list of traits, qualities, and characteristics that they HATE in single guys.

Did you know this?

I didn’t think so.

Well, the truth is that up until a few years ago, I didn’t know this either.

So take heart in the idea that you’re about to learn something that most men on this planet will DIE not knowing.

My hope is that what I’m about to share with you will change how you interact with women FOREVER… and help you meet and date more of the kinds of women you’re interested in.

Onward.

FRIENDSHIPS AND ROMANCE

For women, friendships and romantic relationships are two separate things. They are NOT the same.

One can lead to another, but it’s RARE when it happens.

Remember that.

One CAN lead to another, but it’s RARE.

“Romantic” relationships are very different from “friend” relationships.

While most men would sleep with most of their female “friends” if the woman “came on” to them, most women would NOT sleep with most men that they consider “just friends”.

But why is this?

How do women differentiate between “just friends” and “I’ll be intimate with you”?

And why is it so hard to become “more than friends” with a woman you’ve been “just friends” with for a long time?

The answer to this riddle is very interesting to me.

I believe that the answer comes down to understanding HOW women “know” when they want to “be intimate” with a man… and, even MORE
importantly, understanding how women “know” when they DON’T want to “be intimate” with a man…

The thing that tells a woman whether the guy she’s with is “friend” material or “lover” material is how she FEELS.

It’s a combination of EMOTIONAL feelings and PHYSICAL feelings.

It is NOT logic.

She might USE logic to “rationalize” her decision… or she might USE logic to SOUND like she has a good reason for either “being with” or
“not being with” a particular guy.

But don’t let that distract you.

Logic isn’t important AT ALL in this context.

So let me say this another way.

A woman FEELS something emotionally and/or physically, then she uses those FEELINGS as the basis for her “decisions” and actions with a
particular guy.

If she feels that “Ewwww Yuck!” feeling, then her “logical” conclusion will probably not be that she wants to date the guy in question.

If she feels that “It’s Gettin’ Hot In Here” feeling, then her “logical” conclusion will probably be that this guy is interesting and attractive, and a good “choice” to date. At this point she’ll take ACTION on her feelings and thoughts…

It goes like this:

FEEL—>THINK—>ACT

First the FEELING, then the THOUGHT… and THEN the action.

Now, with this in mind, let me ask you an important question:

How do most guys behave around women that they’re “romantically” interested in?

And another:

What do they do to get the woman that’s the object of their desires to be with them?

Take a few minutes to think about this. Make a list if you have paper and pen handy.

I’m serious. I’ll wait.

Come back when you’re finished.

Now take a look at your list.

I’ll bet that almost every single thing on your list was something “external”.

In other words, your list probably contains things like “Take her to dinner” and “Give her compliments” and “Buy her flowers” and “Call
her often”.

These are all things that demonstrate that he’s INTERESTED.

They are NOT things that trigger those emotional and physical feelings inside of a woman that tell her that THIS IS THE GUY.

In other words, men try to use “props” to LET A WOMAN KNOW HE’S INTERESTED…

…HOPING that when the woman sees these displays she’ll be interested in him.

Almost NONE of the things men do to court women make women FEEL ANYTHING even remotely similar to “Attraction” and “Arousal”.

Of course, you know this.

You’ve probably done this stuff about a bazillion times. I have, too. I know what it’s like to try OVER AND OVER to let a particular woman know that I’m interested… only to have her NOT RESPOND in a “romantic” way.

The PROBLEM with this kind of thing is that it makes TWO HUGE MISTAKES at once.

First, it’s just the plain-old wrong way to go. Telling or showing a woman that you “like her” has no effect on how she feels about YOU.

In the moment it sure seems to make sense… “If I show her how I feel, she’ll return the feelings”.

Duh.

Like I said, it seems like the right thing to do in the moment (when your inner little girl has a big fat crush). But it’s not… it will have NO effect on her feelings for you.

And second, it communicates clearly that YOU DON’T GET IT. It tips a woman off INSTANTLY that you’re not hip to what’s going… and it
kills your chances with her.

Say what?

You mean that doing nice things for women, and trying to show how you feel can actually HURT your chances with a woman?

Yea, it can.

Look, if you’ve been dating a woman exclusively for six months, and her birthday comes… it’s OK to buy her a gift and tell her that you like spending time with her.

YOU’RE ALREADY IN A RELATIONSHIP.

But if you’ve known a woman for six DAYS and you try this kind of thing, you’re going to shoot yourself in the foot.

Women are EXPERTS at recognizing men who DON’T GET IT. And if you DON’T get it, PLUS you’re trying to compensate for the fact that
you don’t get it with gifts and compliments, then you’re REALLY screwed (or not screwed, as the case may be).

Remember what I’m about to tell you.

Burn it into your mind.

Write it on a sticky-note and put it on your computer monitor…

SINGLE, ATTRACTIVE WOMEN WATCH MEN TRY TO WIN THEM OVER ALL DAY LONG. THEY KNOW WHEN A GUY DOESN’T “GET IT”… AND
THEY’RE ANNOYED WHEN A GUY WHO DOESN’T “GET IT” JUST KEEPS TRYING AND TRYING AND TRYING.

Keep in mind that single, attractive women watch guys do this stuff 24/7. They shake their pretty heads and say “He doesn’t get it… He doesn’t get it… He doesn’t get it” over and over and over.

The point is that if you DON’T GET IT, then nothing you do is going to work for you.

The problem is bigger than you can imagine, and you’re going to need to take a totally different road to get where you’re going…

WHAT ATTRACTIVE WOMEN HATE MOST ABOUT SINGLE GUYS…

Let’s return to where we started.

There are a few particular things that REALLY annoy single, attractive women.

One of the reasons that these things annoy women is because they’re DEAL KILLERS.

A woman can like everything about you, but if you do these things (or even ONE of these things), it can DESTROY your chances of success with a particular woman.

Here are a few of the BIG things that single women hate:

1) Giving Up Your Status In Exchange For Her Attention And Approval

If I had to describe the one single thing that both annoys women and DESTROYS a guy’s chances, it would be this.

It has taken me a long time to see this particular pattern, but it’s EVERYWHERE.

Men, in effect, say “Hi, I want your approval and attention. I’m willing to let YOU be the one who’s in control… and let YOU call the shots… and do anything to please YOU… if you’ll give me your attention and
approval”.

But the problem is that women DON’T WANT you to give up your status and “manliness”.

Women aren’t ATTRACTED to men who act weak and tentative.

Women secretly HATE IT when a guy does something to demonstrate that he’ll give away his power in return for approval.

THEY HATE IT!

I could literally write an entire book on this one single concept.

Take a few minutes to think this one over, and maybe write down the ways that you make this mistake with women.

More importantly, think about how you’re going to STOP DOING IT IMMEDIATELY.

2) Being Needy, Clingy, And Insecure

When one person “clings” to another person “psychologically”, the person who is being “clinged to” RESENTS and REJECTS the needy,
clingy emotional parasite…

This is WUSS behavior at its worst.

If a guy is on the phone with a girl he just met, and she says “Hey, I have to go”, he might say “Aw, well… um… OK. Um, will you call me when you get home?”.

Or let’s say a guy and a girl are out on their first date, and they’re walking around in a large department store.

Most guys will follow the woman everywhere, and not leave her side for a minute.

If she wanders away, he’ll come find her IMMEDIATELY.

He’ll stay physically close to her, as if he’s afraid she’ll leave without him.

And an even worse example is a guy who is so emotionally insecure that he actually ASKS a woman to tell him that he’s nice, fun, interesting, etc.

“Do you think I’m interesting?”

“Do you think we could ever have a relationship?”

“Am I your type?”

Women HATE this stuff. It makes them shiver with the heebie-jeebies. It makes them want to RUN AWAY.

3) Not Leading - And Even Worse, Trying To Get Her To Lead

Women have WUSS-DAR.

One of the things that triggers a woman’s WUSS-DAR is a man who FOLLOWS.

The REAL problem is that most women won’t try to LEAD naturally.

So you’ve got a situation where a man is trying to FOLLOW a woman who isn’t LEADING.

He’s looking for little cues so he knows where to go and what to do… but he isn’t getting them.

So what does he do?

He ASKS for them!

He says “So, I was thinking of maybe taking you to Olive Garden for dinner… how does that sound?”.

Everything about the way he asks says to the woman “I’m trying to figure out what you want me to do… please help me know how you want me to act, where you want me to take you, and what you want me to say”.

This is ATTRACTION DEATH!

men who don’t lead, and even worse, try to get a woman to lead, ANNOY THE HELL OUT OF SINGLE WOMEN.

They HATE IT!

4) Using Insecure, Approval-Seeking, Low-Status Posture, Gestures, Voice Tone, And Body Language

There’s a term that single, attractive, in-demand women use to describe men who use weak, approval-seeking posture, gestures,
comments, and mannerisms…

The term is “NICE”.

“He’s nice… but… there’s no chemistry.”

This is one of those areas that’s not easy to talk about.

Since SO DAMN MANY GUYS do this stuff, it’s almost impossible to explain.

It’s like trying to tell a fish that they’re not going to get anywhere in life
if they stay wet.

The fish doesn’t even KNOW it’s wet in the first place.

But let me try.

This is important.

Go spend a day observing couples.

Go places where couples that have just met spend time together.

Bars, clubs, coffee shops, whatever.

Now watch the GUYS.

Watch how they lean towards the women.

Watch how they raise their eyebrows in exaggerated response to women’s comments.

Watch how they slump over, let their shoulders fall forward, and smile fake-ly at whatever the women say.

If you’re close enough, listen to how men ask questions and make comments with a voice tone that says “I’m insecure and I’m trying
to be extra nice to compensate for it”.

You’ll see it EVERYWHERE.

In fact, you’ll see it so much that you’ll probably write me back to tell me that I’m the one who’s crazy, and that since it happens so much, it must be “the right way”.

Well, it’s not.

If there’s one thing that triggers an attractive single woman’s WUSS-DAR, it’s a man’s posture, gestures, eye contact, voice tone, etc.

It all happens in an INSTANT.

Women read this stuff and interpret it as instantly and accurately as you read and interpret the cover of Playboy.

NO ANALYSIS NECESSARY.

I’d say that probably 90% of all men alive today INSTANTLY disqualify themselves with women because of this problem.

Their voice tone, gestures, posture, etc. TELEGRAPH the message that they’re a WUSS.

They do a thousand weird little things to let a woman know that they’re uncomfortable and “not being themselves”.

And you guessed it…

Single women HATE IT!

5) Not Understanding That She’s A Woman And You’re A Man

I’m about to get philosophical on your ass, so be cool.

When it comes down to it, most men don’t understand women.

But the REAL kicker is that most men don’t understand MEN, either!

Most guys don’t know what it’s like to get in touch with their MALE NATURE.

Combine these two issues, and you get a guy who behaves in ways that DO NOT trigger ATTRACTION in women.

Women have a “nature”. A female nature.

Men also have a “nature”. You guessed it, it’s a MALE nature.

Women are coy. They like to play hard to get. They like to enjoy the chase. They love anticipation. They love to “let a guy catch them”…

Men are competitive. Men are dominant. Men like to play rough games, win things, and rule their territory.

Well guess what?

Most men don’t BEHAVE like men when they’re in the presence of a woman that they “like”.

And since most men don’t understand female human nature, they don’t demonstrate that they “get it” when they’re with women that they “like”.

Women like men. Men like women. There are POWERFUL causes at play here.

When you’re around a woman you like, don’t act like a GIRLY-MAN. It’s not sexy, and it’s not attractive…

And single women HATE IT!

6) Not Being Interesting To Be Around

Underneath most behavior that I see most guys acting out is a “core belief” that goes like this:

“I don’t believe that an attractive woman would want to be around me just because she enjoys my presence… so I make up for it by saying and doing certain things that I hope she’ll enjoy… and if she enjoys those
other things enough, then maybe she’ll want to spend more time with me.”

Heavy, man.

Well guess what? Most attractive single women KNOW that if a guy isn’t interesting to be around, they she’s eventually going to go CRAZY being around him.

In other words, no amount of material gifts, compliments, dinners, and other “displays” will EVER compensate for a lack of BEING INTERESTING.

Here’s a profound thought:

I and several other guys I know have many women who call us often… just because they enjoy being around us.

These women would be happy just to be in the same room with us… and enjoy our company.

And yes, these women CALL US.

Often.

Material gifts, food, flowers, and other “displays” have ZERO lasting value to a woman when it comes to how she FEELS about you…

An attractive single woman wants a guy who LIGHTS HER UP. She wants to FEEL GOOD.

She wants mystery… she wants to laugh… she wants a challenge… she wants sexual tension…

If you’re using compliments, gifts, food, and other “displays” to get a woman’s attention… you need to ask yourself a tough question:

Is it because you don’t believe that a woman would want to be around you just to be around you?

Because if you don’t know how to be INTERESTING to a woman, then no amount of compensation is going to fix the problem.

If you’re boring, predictable, and uninteresting, then you’re never going to have women calling YOU to hang out.

Oh, and women HATE IT.

7) Not Understanding Attraction

This is a BIGGIE.

You hear me talking about it all the time, right?

Maybe now that you’ve read this newsletter you’ll have a better context to understand what I’m about to tell you…

If you “get it” with women, it’s SUPER INTERESTING and ATTRACTIVE to them.

Women can INSTANTLY FEEL IT when they’re with a guy who “gets it”.

Women know very quickly if they’re talking to a guy who understands himself and women… and who enjoys creating and building sexual tension.

Women know if a guy speaks the SECRET LANGUAGE of “Sexual Communication”.

If he doesn’t, then she stops all communication on that level.

If he does, then it continues.

ATTRACTION Isn’t A Choice.

Attraction is an emotional and physical RESPONSE… and you can’t “convince” a woman to feel it with logic, gifts, and NICENESS.

Attraction is the result of a woman meeting a man who understands how attraction works… and who knows what to do in each specific
situation to progress to the next level.

The PROBLEM with ATTRACTION, and with success with women in general is that the things you need to DO to be successful are NOT
OBVIOUS.

They’re “counter intuitive”, in many cases.

In other words, they’re the OPPOSITE of what you’d THINK would make sense.

You have to do things like CREATE TENSION… stop doing something that she likes… give her time to miss you… etc.

And if you don’t understand ATTRACTION, a woman is going to KNOW IT.

And guess what?

Single women HATE IT when a man doesn’t understand ATTRACTION and how to communicate on this “other level”.

Now that I’ve shared the mistakes, you need the next piece of the puzzle. You need to get an education on how attraction works for women… and the RIGHT things to do up front to give her those emotional/physical feelings inside.

Right now you’re probably feeling that excited “Ah Ha!” feeling.

That’s because you understand something at a different level… you’ve used your mind to understand something complex… and you feel good about bettering yourself.

Dating a Younger Girl

I recently read somewhere that when men get
married for the SECOND time, they marry women an
AVERAGE of 10 years younger.

Something like 20% of men who marry for a
second time wind up marrying a woman that is over
20 YEARS YOUNGER.

I also recall reading somewhere that women
are universally attracted to men who are older
than them, and that the “average” relationship
contains a man that is four years older than the
woman.

Interesting stuff.

Remember Humphrey Bogart and Lauren Bacall?

Bastard.

Or how about Michael Douglas and Catherine
Zeta Jones?

I hate him, too.

In my own family there are age gaps ranging
from 10 years to over 40 years.

Yea, you read that one right. Over 40 years.

I won’t even go there…

Let’s just say that it brings a whole new
meaning to “I traded my 40 in for two 20s”.

I guess what I’m trying to say here is that
this pattern of older men dating and marrying
younger women isn’t going away anytime soon.

In fact, I personally believe that the more
“socially acceptable” it becomes, the MORE it’s
going to happen.

For most of my adult life, I’ve dated women
that were either my own age, or very close.

But for some reason, right about when I
turned 30, I began sometimes dating women who
were younger than me.

At first it was a little bit strange.

I didn’t feel like I had anything to talk
about with a woman who was five or ten years
younger than me.

But the more it happened, the more I realized
that younger women have a certain appeal that
goes far beyond just the “physical beauty”.

Younger women just have a different VIBE.

If you meet the right younger woman, you’ll
find that she can bring an amazing energy, vibe,
and youthful atmosphere to your life.

After having the experience myself, talking
to other guys who have shared it, and reading
about it a lot, I can say that many guys have
the experience of FEELING YOUNGER and MORE
VITAL when dating a younger woman.

It can be a blast.

Now, I’m not saying that it’s a bad idea to
date women your own age, or women who are older
than you.

Not at all, in fact.

I’m just saying that if you find yourself
attracted to younger women, it’s perfectly OK.

And I want to devote this newsletter to the
topic of how to successfully date younger women.

Keep your eye out in the near future for a
newsletter titled “How to date women that are
old enough to be your grandma”. Somehow I don’t
expect that one to be quite as popular as this
one… lol.

OK, let’s get to it.

First I want to talk about my take on
younger women in general, then I’d like to share
some specific techniques and ideas for dating
them…

YOUNGER WOMEN MATURE FASTER

Now, we’ve all heard that “Women mature
faster than men”, right?

Well if you could have the opportunity to
listen to a group of four 20-year-old models
standing in front of the bathroom mirror at an
A-List club in Los Angeles or New York, I think
you might change your mind…

My personal view is that SOME women mature
faster than most men… and that SOME women
have a SIDE of them that matures faster than
most men.

All women don’t mature faster than all men.

But there are those women that DO mature
faster… and these younger women can be VERY
interesting to hang out with.

Take a minute and imagine what it would be
like to be an attractive 18-year-old young
woman who has just graduated from high school
and is starting her first year in college.

Let’s assume that she’s above average in
the looks department, smart, and beginning to
enjoy her new-found freedom and independence.

What would be going through your mind?

How would you be approaching the world?

Well, I think that you’d probably have
begun to realize (in a big way, most likely)
that you have a certain POWER over most men.

You’ve probably also begun to realize that
there are certain types of “boyz” that hold
a certain appeal… and ones that trigger a
certain type of magnetic attraction in you.

(If you’ve had a chance to go through
my Advanced Dating Techniques Program, then
you understand that this ATTRACTION is
being triggered by certain traits, and not
just good looks.)

Now, without taking too long to explain
the point, if you think about it, the traits
that trigger ATTRACTION in women are MORE
likely to be found in an OLDER man than a
YOUNGER one.

Traits like higher status, masculinity,
leadership, mystery, challenge, confidence,
and composure… and many others.

It often takes men DECADES to cultivate
the traits that are attractive to women…
and you’ll notice that when they do, they
often act like they just discovered the
concept of FRICTION… and they behave
accordingly.

And if you were an attractive younger
woman who was just “finding her wings” in
life, you’d be responding to this in a way
that you probably wouldn’t be able to
explain.

The point?

Younger women are more likely to feel
ATTRACTION for a man who is older.

This principle has proven itself to me
over and over… and the more I look around,
the more I see it in action.

IS IT “NORMAL” TO DATE A WOMAN
WHO IS YOUNGER THAN YOU?

One thing that makes this particular
topic very interesting to me is that it often
evokes VERY emotional responses from people.

Some people say “It’s sick for an older
man to date a younger woman”… some people
see it as perfectly normal… and some see it
as MORE normal than men dating women their
own age.

Everyone has an opinion about it, one way
or another.

The reason that this is important is that
the younger women you’d like to date have a
wide range of opinions as well.

IN other words, one 20-year-old woman
might think that the idea of dating a guy who
is 27 is TOTALLY GROSS, while the next one
might only find herself attracted to men who
are over 30.

The point I’m making here is that if you
are going to date younger women, you must not
let yourself be overly influenced by the
opinions of others… especially the women
you would like to date.

Just because one woman says “I think that
any guy who asks a woman out who is more than
three years younger is sick” doesn’t mean that
ALL women think that way.

The girl right behind her might say “I just
don’t have a clue why ANY woman would want to
date ANY guy who’s under 40… they’re all
immature”.

If you wind up talking to a woman who isn’t
interested because you’re “too old”, just move
on… and don’t let it distract you.

CATEGORIES AND CATEGORIES

I’ve found that women usually fit into one
of the following three categories when it comes
to how they view this topic:

1) “It’s perfectly normal” Maybe 20%)

2) “It’s taboo, and very intriguing” (Maybe 20%)

3) “It’s GROSS!” (Maybe 60%)

I just made these numbers up based on my
personal experience and my personal observations.

Some guys I know ONLY date women who are much
younger than themselves… and their experience
is that MOST younger women want to date guys who
are older… see for yourself.

Next, I personally think that maybe only 25%
of the younger women you meet are even worth
your time and attention.

75% are in the categories of not interested
in older guys, not attractive physically or
personality-wise, too immature, etc.

Of those that ARE worth pursuing, most fit
into one of a few categories:

1) Damn smart, high standards, and on the path
to bettering herself.

This young woman will often respect you and
admire you for your experience in life, and look
to you for approval, advice, and input.

She will probably get a thrill from being with
a guy who is mature, sophisticated, and who knows
how to make her feel good physically.

This woman might be the daughter of a strict
and/or religious family who is now experimenting
with her independence.

2) Attractive, and overly-concerned with what
others think… very competitive, life revolves
around boys.

If you meet a woman who is between 18 and 23,
and she’s a model, actress, dancer, or other
“entertainer”, you’ll often find this personality
type…

Often these girls like to PARTY.

Drama usually isn’t far away.

These women often enjoy the thrill that being
with an older guy brings.

They are often found on the arm of rich,
playboy types… because they like the attention
and material gifts and advantages.

WARNING: These women, in my experience, are
more likely to be users, cheaters, and the types
that turn your emotional life upside-down with
all kinds of unimaginable drama.

Buyer beware.

3) The nice girl who likes you. Maybe not
stunning, and maybe not a super-genius, but
likes the fact that she’s met a man who is a
MAN… and who makes her feel good.

Most of these women have a common realization
that guys their age just don’t “get it”.

They’re tired of hearing about dumb “guy
stuff”, and they are fascinated by a man who is
both clearly in control of himself and his
environment, and very aware of how to treat a
woman… how to make her feel good… how to
take his time.

These women can be great fun, and they can
be a real joy to be around. They often bring
a fun, spontaneous energy to the relationship,
and they make things a little unpredictable.

Now this isn’t a complete list.

And it’s not exact.

But it’s pretty accurate, and if you use
these categories as general guides, you’ll
begin to understand and have more success in
your interactions with younger women.

THE SPECIFICS… WHAT, WHEN, HOW
WHY, WHERE…

Here are some specific ideas for dating
younger women.

REMEMBER: These are WOMEN. They’re not
a different species, and everything else that
you’ve learned from me applies as well.

1) Be Cool, Dude.

When most older guys meet a younger woman
that they feel attracted to, they immediately
begin to act WEIRD.

They stop acting like “themselves”.

Now, women don’t know what you’re like
“normally”, but they can tell INSTANTLY if
you’re NOT ACTING LIKE YOURSELF.

Us guys do all kinds of subtle and not-so-
subtle little things when we’re feeling
nervous… and these things give women the
HEEBIE JEEBIES!

So be cool.

Relax.

Don’t act like a Wussbag.

2) Treat her like a BRATTY LITTLE SISTER.

Now that you’re being “cool”, take it to
the NEXT LEVEL…

Use one of my favorite personal techniques,
and treat her like your BRATTY LITTLE SIS.

Tease her.

Make fun.

It’s OK, go for it.

Say all the things you never had a chance
to say when you were a freshman.

Now’s your big chance!

And don’t worry about it when she plays
“fake mad”. Just turn it up some more.

Oh, and call her on everything she does
or says that’s immature.

I can’t go into all the reasons why this
is a great idea, but it is. You keep your
power, you have all kinds of opportunities
to be Cocky & Funny, and you can always keep
things interesting and challenging.

Oh, and it’s COMPLETELY different than the
way most Wussies treat her… which is good.

3) Don’t try to follow or get her to lead.

Women in general are not attracted to men
who don’t take the lead… and younger women
are no exception.

In fact, younger women have less experience
in life, so trying to get them to lead and
tell you what they want you to do is just a
horrible idea.

Don’t do it.

You lead. You decide where you’re going. You
make the rules.

If you try to make her the boss, you’ll run
her off faster than you can say “I touch myself”.

4) Don’t try to take advantage of the situation.

Most attractive young women have had at
LEAST one “icky older guy” that “tried something”
with her.

Younger women are HYPER-ALERT when it
comes to sketchy behavior.

If you try to take advantage of the situation
or try to “make a move” too early, you’ll most
likely signal to her that you’re a “perv” and
that you aren’t to be trusted.

Lean back.

Chill.

Give her room.

when you walk down the street with her, bump
into her and push her AWAY from you.

Tell her not to walk too close to you… tell
her that other people might think something.

If you’re alone with her in your living room,
don’t sit right next to her.

If she touches you while talking, don’t touch
her back… or even make fun of it and say “Keep
your hands off the goods”.

5) Don’t intrude on or interfere with her life.

You must remember that younger women have
lives of their own.

Often they’re very close to their families,
and they’re unsure of how their families would
respond if they found out that their pride and
joy daughter was dating an older guy.

Remember, she just got FREE of the overbearing
father… and she doesn’t need a new one.

Don’t call her at work, don’t show up to see
her unexpectedly, and don’t embarrass her.

If you want to make an attractive young woman
perform magic (the instant disappearing act),
just interfere with her life.

She’s free, so let her be free. Encourage it,
even. Don’t interfere.

6) Let her come to you… don’t chase her.

If you want to make friends with a cat, the
best tactic is to IGNORE IT.

Cats are interesting creatures.

Have you ever noticed that if you chase a
cat, it will run… but if you sit and ignore
it, you’ll soon find yourself pushing it off
of your lap?

Same goes for younger women.

Like I just mentioned, younger women have
often just “escaped” from controlling parents,
structured lives, and zero freedom.

If she’s attracted to you, it’s not because
you’re creating the environment that she just
left… it’s because you represent something
different.

You’ll find that if you call her all the
time and chase her, she’ll be harder to get
a hold of, and less likely to continue to see
you.

If you let her go, let her live her life,
and make yourself more scarce, you’ll be more
likely to have her pursuing YOU.

Be the man that she’s always dreamed about,
and then don’t chase her.

7) EXPECT her to change.

If you’re dating a woman between the ages of
18 and 23, you need to remember that her life is
probably going to change DRAMATICALLY over the
next few years.

You need to keep an open mind, and not try
to restrict or hinder her options.

You need to expect and even encourage her to
grow, change, and become all she can be.

The reality is that the chances are SLIM that
she’s going to be with you in a few years.

In fact, the chances are slim that she’s even
going to be the same person in a few years.

Get over it, and be OK with it.

Challenge her to grow, achieve, and be her
best… and don’t accept second-class behavior
from her.

But she’s going to change, so expect it.

Be CHIVILROUS.

Most younger women have had VERY FEW men
in their lives who even know what the word
“Chivalry” means.

If you’re one of those men, then you need
to LEARN what the word means.

Opening doors, walking on the outside of
the curb, and pulling out chairs makes a BIG
impression on younger women.

When you combine a masculine, powerful
presence with chivalry, you will stand out and
make yourself VERY intriguing and attractive.

9) Stay totally calm in the face of drama.

Younger women often have a lot of drama
happening around them, and they often act
dramatic.

I could write an entire book about all the
things that a young woman has going on around
her that are TOTALLY UNSTABLE…

And the most influential one is the other
people in her life.

If she freaks out about something, don’t let
it get to you.

Stay cool and calm.

Don’t try to fix all her problems, and don’t
try to stand in for her dad.

She isn’t looking for advice, so don’t give
it to her (unless she asks seriously, and in a
non-emotional tone).

One of the things that makes you attractive
as an older man is the stability that you bring.

So BRING IT.

10) Be conscious of how often you see her and
speak with her.

Younger women are less in-control of their
emotions… and can become attached more quickly
and easily.

The “trigger” for a woman “becoming attached”
is how often you see her and talk to her.

If you want to trigger the “relationship”
mechanism, spend a lot of time with her.

If you DON’T want to trigger those emotions,
you need to limit the time you spend with her.

As a rule of thumb, don’t see her more than
once a week, and don’t talk to her more than once
or twice a week unless you want her to start
becoming very attached to you.

And I don’t care what you SAY… it’s the
AMOUNT OF TIME you spend with her that makes
this determination.

Trust me.

UNDERSTAND ATTRACTION

As always, the most IMPORTANT thing you must
understand when dating younger women is how
ATTRACTION WORKS.

If you don’t understand ATTRACTION, then none
of what I just taught you will make a damn bit
of difference…

In fact, if you don’t understand ATTRACTION,
then most of the things I just taught you above
will probably BACKFIRE on you.

So what’s the best way to learn how to make
women feel ATTRACTION for you?

In fact, what’s the fastest, most efficient,
most complete, most EFFECTIVE way to learn how
to make women feel ATTRACTION for you available
in the world?

I’d say that it’s my eBook, Double Your Dating.

And after spending YEARS figuring all of this
stuff out, you can believe me when I say that this
is the book that I wish I would have had when
I first started.

If you put a young, beautiful woman in a
guys house on his couch, he doesn’t know the FIRST
THING about how to make her feel ATTRACTION for
him. He’ll do things to please her, hoping that at
some point she begins to get “into the mood”…
and then somehow lets him know.

It will NEVER HAPPEN.

But if that guy knows the secrets of how to
make a woman feel ATTRACTION… and how to
smoothly take things to a physical level
without triggering resistance and rejection…
then he will be successful almost every time.

What a Girl Wants You to follow her

Walking down the street, you usually feast your eyes on the hot ladies going by and say to yourself: “I’d do her!” Has it ever come to your mind that men are not alone with this? Yes, my friend, women do the same!

During your everyday life, whether you are on the underground, walking in the local shopping center or dancing in your favorite club, girls will notice and measure you the same way. They might not say, “I’d do her”, but they can be open to meeting you and going further.

Most guys live their everyday life and never notice when a woman is eyeing them. But what if you approached her? Just think how many of these opportunities to meet a wonderful girl have you lost in the past! Countless to say at least.

Here are a few examples. A girl coming in front of you who looks deep into your eyes and smiles is giving you a sign of interest. When you are on the bus and a certain girl maintains her proximity to you (even if you sit or stand somewhere else) is showing a sign of interest. Maybe you can notice with your peripheral sight that a girl is looking at you from time to time. Or the girl sitting next to you fixes her hair, puts on some make-up or does something to get your attention.

Most of these women are waiting for you to make your move! Even though it’s sometimes unconscious for them as well, if you got the signs right she will be SURE to respond to you positively.

If you’ve got the courage to meet some wonderful girls this way, I will share my secret. This is a secret some authors are selling for hell a lot of $$$s, and if I give it to you, you will have to make a promise. You MUST promise to try it AT LEAST ONCE, otherwise close this window and go to Disney.com RIGHT NOW! Deal?

OK. So you chose to stay with me. Don’t forget your word! The following approach requires balls, but it also works like charm. In certain situations when you are pressed by time and you see a women giving you signs of interest (like those mentioned above), go up to her with a big smile on your face and say:

„Hi. You look like somebody I should get to know, but I’m in a hurry right now. Still, I don’t want to pass such a wonderful opportunity to meet someone like you. I’d like to see you again at a place where we could talk and get to know each other.”

It is very important to SMILE and come off casually and non-threatening. Like when you bump into a friend you haven’t seen for a long time. If you interpreted her body language well, and she really gave you an invitation to approach her, she will agree to meet again. So after she recovers from the initial (positive) shock, simply ask for her number, then smile and carry on with whatever you were doing.

One more thing: recognizing these signs is not easy if you have never done it before. So don’t be afraid to practice and don’t be scared if you get rejected at times. After all the girl you approach doesn’t even know YOU, she can only reject a stranger, not your real self. You see, it’s very important not to take anything personally.

The Top most Dating Tips

Whether you are new to the dating scene, are reentering the dating scene, or are a serial dater, you can use dating tips and advice. No one is a dating expert – even the most beautiful and wealthy people all struggle with matters of the heart. Everyone can learn something about how to date more, how to attract the types of people we want to attract, and how to make sure initial chemistry blooms into an enduring relationship.

The truth is, there are no magic formulas, no fail-proof tricks, no cunning ways of trapping Mr. or Miss Right. There are however some essential facts that you should always bear in mind along the way. Dating tips are just that — tips, not one-size-fits-all guarantees. Different tacks will work for different people. It depends on the situation, who we are, where we are in our lives, etc. However, there are some threads of advice that are fairly universal and can benefit anyone who practices them:

Top 10 Dating Tips

1. Get prepared for dating. If you really want to succeed in the dating game, be ready to commit to dating. Half-heartedness won’t work. In fact, it won’t even get you half-way. If you really want to date, put some effort into it. Do some research and think about what you want out of dating. Prepare yourself for the inevitable rejection we all face at some point in dating and commit not to give up.
2. Get your act together. Begin a regime of looking your best. Join a gym, read health magazines, get fit and start a diet. Get your hair cut or styled and begin a new regime of good grooming or beauty treatment. Though it will not find you a date in itself, you will feel a million times more confident about yourself, and others can sense that.
3. Go shopping and treat yourself to new clothes and even a whole new look. Get your image right, one that you can manage and live with, but one that flatters you. Don’t try to be someone you’re not, but amplify and accentuate your positives. Throw out those tired jeans, old sweaters or cardigans and spruce yourself up. Your date will appreciate that you demonstrated some effort.
4. Think about what you want to gain from dating and what timeframes you expect. Do you see yourself married within 2 years? If you do, then approach dating accordingly. If you are more laid back and don’t take dating too seriously then ask yourself some honest questions about why you are dating and what you hope to achieve. If it is purely sex then ask yourself if you are about to be honest with those you hope to date.
5. Surround yourself with people who will support your dating aims. By following the first four tips you will feel better and be more focused. Don’t sabotage this by sitting around with friends who are negative about love and relationships (often the married ones). Start attending social functions frequented by singles. Sitting alongside couples at dinner parties in suburbia is not necessarily where you need to be right now.
6. Choose those you have a good chance of dating. Be realistic. In other words, your dating is based on the whole package you present as well as just your personality. If you are looking for a glamour girl or boy and want to date someone trendy and gorgeous, great! Just know that others will expect you to be the same.
7. Join clubs, societies, sports events, drama groups — anything that might help you meet like-minded potential partners. You will not meet people by staying indoors and playing video games – many have tried and failed at this approach.
8. Take time off from dating occasionally if it’s not going well or causing dating fatigue. Recharging your batteries and keeping confidence and optimism levels high is an absolute must. We all hit rough patches, but don’t let your search for love become a death march. Date in phases if necessary.
9. Enjoy dating for what it is, dating. It is meeting people and socializing and spending time in the company of stimulating individuals who may or may not play a bigger part in your life down the road. The fact is, most people have something interesting to offer. While you may not be out on the dating scene looking for new friends, you may well find one or two fabulous people along the way.
10. Never make yourself too available. People like mystery and enigma and the thrill of the chase when dating. As part of keeping up the mystery, do not sleep with your dates early on. The longer a person is made to chase and fall for you within reason, the more likely that love may blossom. (And yes, this goes for both men AND women!) If the chemistry peaks too early, your emotions may never have time to catch up and the relationship will eventually wither away.

Dating Tips for Singles

Online dating is generally extremely safe because it is distance dating and lets you get to know your potential matches anonymously before you meet in person. This makes most people feel more comfortable and also allows you to pace yourself and be selective (which you should be).

However, there are still some basic safety rules for online dating you should observe before giving out personal contact information to a relative strangers or arranging to meet them. Even though everything is online, it’s still easy to get carried away, so take things slow. These tips may seem obvious, but following them will ensure your safety and make sure you have only good online dating experiences. And you never know: Mr. or Miss Right might be just around the corner!

• Always trust your instinct — after all, it’s gotten you this far in life already
• Take your time and look at lots of different profiles to get a feel for what kind of person you want
• Never publish your phone number or email address
• Don’t take anything at face value — it’s easy to lie online, and many people do
• Ask lots of questions when chatting with your potential mates
• Make sure you feel comfortable with whoever you are chatting with, at all times
• If someone is abusive or rude, block them immediately
• Don’t give your home or work address to anyone you have not met in person
• Before agreeing to a date, make sure you know as much about the other person as possible
• Don’t allow yourself to be talked into anything — you’re the one in charge
• Take your time to get to know someone — don’t be rushed
• A patient person will be happy to wait until you are ready to meet
• Make sure anyone you’re talking to is willing to provide photos and information about himself or herself
• Ask your date to leave a message on your voicemail beforehand, if possible
• Chat on the phone for a while before arranging a date
• Always meet in a well-lit public place
• Always tell a good friend where you are going and who you’re meeting
• If possible, step away and call a friend during the date to confirm that everything is ok
• Always carry a cell phone on a date
• Schedule lunch dates — they’re convenient and they have a time limit
• Always make your own travel arrangements to/from a first date
• Do not accept a ride home on the first date or reveal your address
• If you’re traveling far, always make and confirm your own hotel arrangements
• Make sure you have as much information about your date as possible
• Keep your first date to a specified time limit so you always have an “exit” point
• Never feel like you owe it to someone to meet them — you don’t!

These rules might seem like overkill, but the reality is that you are introducing yourself to complete strangers and should definitely take precautions. Following these and other safe dating strategies will make sure you can relax and enjoy yourself safely and without the fear that someone will take advantage of you.

How to Maintain a Date

Dating dislikes are a very personal. The things one person loves someone their mate can be the cause for divorce for another couple. You may love the way they smile with one gold tooth, wink from under their glasses, flick their dyed orange hair or paint their nails blue, and that is your prerogative. But there are some common things we all look for when dating someone.

1.) The top of the dating dislikes list is hygiene. You may laugh at this, but it is often overlooked, especially by men. Getting ready for a date doesn’t just mean a quick rake of the hair and the straightening of a T shirt. Remember, first impressions count and may be the only impression you leave. Before a date, get yourself to the chemist and then to the bathroom and put some effort into your appearance. Have a shave, wash your hair, scrub behind your ears and get suited up. It is your chance to shine, so make sure you are indeed shining. You may be a jeans and t-shirt kind of guy, and that’s OK. Just brush your teeth for two straight minutes, wear deodorant and nice aftershave, and put on a neat shirt.

2.) Clothes are big dating dislikes. The wrong clothes that is. It is amazing the number of times I have witnessed a good looking girl dressed immaculately only to discover her new man wearing an anorak in a trendy bar, a dirty t-shirt in a restaurant or ratty jeans to the theater. It’s very disheartening. The fact is, how you look on a first date is very important, because it’s time for both of you to shine. You don’t need to be wearing Gucci or Armani, though it can help on occasions, and you should be comfortable. Business casual can be good depending on your date. This is often why I recommend going on a first date at lunch during the week. You are already dressed for work so you may already be wearing a neat outfit. If your job is manual and you get dirty, leave the first date until evening. But for men, you should wear a button-down shirt and trousers and look presentable. No garish Hawaii kit at this stage. For women, something understated but stylish is best. Too tight, too short or too fashionable may leave you feeling wrongly dressed for the wrong date and wishing you hadn’t bothered.

3.) Money is a big issue that can end up on the one in the dating dislikes list. Too flashy and it looks conceited. Too downtrodden and you’re out, especially if you’re a guy. Too much chatting about cash is no fun, but too little ambition is a turn off. To be safe, keep your cash conversations to a zero level and enjoy your date together. If you want to talk about ambitions, avoid chatting about your burning desire for a Lear Jet and house in the Hamptons. If you aspire to be Donald Trump, cool, but don’t ram it down your date’s throat. Money, contrary to popular opinion, doesn’t impress at first, it simply polarizes people. It can leave your date feeling very uncomfortable no matter which direction you go. If you are dating someone outside of your financial class, don’t try and pretend you’re something you aren’t. Instead always keep to something affordable, because you are spending time with someone, not their wallet or purse. If you do happen to be a millionaire, keep that under wraps your 4th date.

4.) Lying. Many people tell lies on dates even though it’s a huge dating dislike. They do this because they want to appear exciting, invigorating and interesting. This means that some of the things you are told are not true or only partially true. In a good dating scenario, these little white lies get played out with a laughter and good conversation, and the truth escapes as you both relax. Though they might be entertaining, little white lies could put you on the path towards dating disaster. People are seeking honesty because it is one of the basic building blocks for any new relationship. Get caught later and you may be in trouble.

5.) Getting drunk can put you on the true path to dating disaster. If you’re a young student, most dating occurs near the many bars near your college campus, and I for one have many fond memories of those dates. However, as we get older, things get a little more serious and we need to keep out wits about us. Girlfriends have told me that the most promising dates they have been on ended up in the gutter because their dates got smashed on vodka or beer. Of course the biggest reason people get drunk on dates is nerves. Many people are far more relaxed after a drink or too. It calms your nerves and fears and promotes a feeling of confidence. In that sense, a drink is good for dating, if it ends after one. If you go too far in the early stages of dating, you can simply end up undoing all your good work. If you are nervous, you can end up drinking too much and making a fool of yourself. So whilst drinking can be fine, leave it out at this stage of your dating game plan.

DatingTips for Men

1. Why are you asking them out, is it for the right reasons and what do you expect as a result of them saying yes or no?

2. Be prepared that the person you ask may say no and in which case do not take the rejection personally.

3. When asking someone out choose your moment carefully and practise what you might say in advance so that you don’t appear tongue-tied.

4. If the person you ask says yes, ensure you already have thought of a place, date and time for the date so that you display signs of thoughfulness.

5. Be prepared for the person asking why you want to date them so that you are able to flatter and create a sense of trust immediately. People can be wary and they may want to know some reasosn behind your request. Better, anticipate this by saying “would you like to come to dinner, I have always thought you are great fun..”.

6. Make sure that your request for a date does not pressurize the person in any way. If they want to think about it, let them. But don’t chase.

7. Make sure that when you ask someone on a date you smile and keep things fun and happy. Being confident and smiley will elicit a far more positive response.

8. Always have an alternative date and time or location in mind should the person be unsure of their diary. Giving a person a choice is often a marketing masterstroke.

9. If the person says no, don’t chase for a reason, simply move on. They may think about things and get back to you with a yes response later.

10. If you ask someone on a date, make sure that you actually intend to go through with it. Standing people up is not allowed.

11. If you are being asked out don’t play games. If you need time to consider the offer then say so. If you want to say no, say no. But do not keep someone hanging on for no reason. You wouldn’t like the situation if it was reversed.

12. Try to avoid dutch-courage such as using alcohol to boost your courage levels as this will often backfire.

13. Don’t ask someone out when they are in a group of friends. Timing is everything.